Don’t Sweat the Holidays
You know the week of Thanksgiving and every day that follows until New Years can be overwhelming, chaotic, busy, restless and almost panicked. But it doesn’t have to be!!
Last weekend (I meant to write this sooner but see above adjectives) we went to a Christmas “kick-off” with loads of kid activities and FREE hot cocoa then Sunday we took the stroller, the kids and got some hot chocolate and decided to walk some of the streets in the very ‘fancy’ neighborhoods to see the gorgeous Christmas lights. Both plans could have ultimately ended in my own disappointment and resentment because I tend to idolize expectations! The FREE hot cocoa at our Saturday outing ran out by the time we got our turn & after 6 houses on Sunday the sky opened up and we got completely drenched!!
As a victim of sexual abuse what commonly happens is due to the lack of control we have in those circumstances we can tend to over compensate later in life, attempting to control everything. Now this is not only an issue with abuse victims, many broken people from many different scenarios have the same desire: to control their surroundings. Well, while I was manipulated and lacked control as a child the truth is I wouldn’t have had control regardless of my circumstances. Which is the reason for the internal struggle amongst many. Control is and ILLUSION of power. I am not powerful. Christ is. Therefore, I have no control. Yes, there are things that I can plan, organize and take responsibility for however unless it is specifically happening TO me, I cannot have control over outward situations. We just don’t have authority over anyone except ourselves. So if so choose to be angry I get to be angry; however, if I want you to be angry I cannot force that no matter what I do. Only you can choose to become angry too.
Anyway, In the past I would have moped, gotten angry or felt discouraged when my plans were unsuccessful. But 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” And I am seeing transformation in this area. While I still desire control I can let things go more easily when “my way” is not met.
Just a little encouragement for you today & any day the chaos and lack of control makes you feel like you’re losing a battle: there is NO battle you have to fight alone.